Friday, September 30, 2011
I had several e-mails about my kids so I'm just going to blog on that tonight.
Yes, they watch TV. No, I don't think it's the end of the world.
My oldest son can watch whatever he wants (that includes on cable). My middle child has to ask on cable offerings. I ask why he wants to watch something (unless it's Cartoon Network or Comedy Central). He explains why and I say "yes."
(I've never told him "no." This is an exercise and I wouldn't tell him "no." There's a point to what I'm doing.)
She's too young but she's not really interested in TV all that much. She likes to have a movie on in the background while she plays with her dolls. But the shows she likes end up getting the axe so she really doesn't watch much. On Sundays, she'll come get me if I'm doing something else to tell me we have to watch Desperate Housewives (we watch that for Vanessa Williams).
My kids are very active for two of you are so concerned. As I blogged a year or two ago, C.I. had a friend who was giving tennis lessons so, with my permission, she signed them up. My kids can and do play tennis. C.I. has horses and they know how to ride horses (my middle son actually took lessons, he enjoys riding so much). C.I.'s got a pool that they're always in.
They go hiking with Jess and Ty at least once a week.
They've got friends they interact with. My oldest plays multiple music instruments. My middle son plays three instruments and my daughter is just learning one.
They miss their grandparents and cousins and aunts and uncles. But if I hadn't taken the promotion that brought me out here (California), I'd be among the unemployed. Maybe I would have found a job by now, maybe I wouldn't have. My father told me I had to take the promotion and he'd already talked to C.I. to make sure she was fine with me moving into her house. So all I had to do was say "yes" or "no."
I said "yes" and within a year after I did, the Atlanta operation suffered major layoffs. So it was a great decision that way.
They have new friends at their new schools. And they're well adjusted.
One of you wondered about my former mother-in-law and whether she saw the kids? We go back to Georgia for Thanksgiving and Christmas and the kids go back for spring break and two weeks in the summer. When I accompany them, I make a point to take them to see their other grandmother. If she wanted to see them more than that, she could and that would be fine. Well, it would be fine with me.
The boys are certainly more than old enough to have their own say. I would probably discuss it with my daughter and place more value on what she wanted. But with the boys, absolutely it would be their say.
Two of you who wrote were writing because you were having issues of squabbles between your kids. I've never had that, I'm sorry.
My oldest has always been my rock and he and his brother have always gone out of their way to protect, humor and indulge their baby sister. My middle son is the most easy going in the world (unless you mess with someone he likes).
But my oldest sister did have a problem like that. What she ended up doing (and it worked) was taking herself out of the equation and telling the kids they were going to have to learn to work together.
"Iraq snapshot" (The Common Ills):